horny,
Cheer up. I've been in almost the same situation, and it turned into the best years of my life. I moved to San Francisco with a girl and left everything behind in my old city. She turned out to be a bitch and we broke up within 3 or 4 months. So I was alone in a new city, etc.
I started mongering like crazy. I had never been around so many quality mongering options. But I felt a little detached like you have described. Luckily the girls in my office are 90% Asian, so I started getting to know them, let them know I was single, and did some very mild innocent flirting. Like if I pissed a girl off, I would send a chinese character apology, then she would give me a nickname, like bendangua or whatever. Before you know it I'm going out after work for drinks every night and this group of girls took me under their wing. Of course I'm mongering every other day just about. So I'm very relaxed from a sexual standpoint. The coworkers set me up with their friends and I really approached it just as friendly dating and a chance to have honest companionship with the opposite sex, and I always had someone to see movies or go out to eat with, and I wasn't tied down to anyone, and I treated like a king by every girl I was with.
Anyway, I got to know many girls (and guys) and was introduced to their families and became close to many different groups/families, and they were always trying to set me up with the best single girls in each group. Occasionally, I would slip a little and a hug would turn into a grope and I would have my finger in a girls pussy etc, then I would back off and apologize and take it back to a friend-type relationship. This apparently made these girls try even harder, LOL. They would still hang out at my place or me at theirs, and many times I would spend the night in the same bed, and maybe strip down to shorts. I could always put my hands on them at night and use the excuse that I was just sleeping/dreaming. Sometimes a quick minor sexual act would occur, and I would try to minimize it and act like it was just a human error type of thing. These were great, great times. Eventually, I got too close to one girl and started combining stuff and starting a life with her and before you know it, she's my SO. I'm very happy with her, but I miss those days of being sought by so many great ladies.
I owe my happiness in those days to mongering. Because I enjoyed the mongering immensely, and it took the need to chase women out of my life. And you know what happens the minute you stop chasing something? If you aren't already, I hope you can get in with a good group of girls at your work, once you do that things will fall into place for you quickly. | |
