Originally posted by SEAJ at 2-1-2010 00:29
Nobody really knows that Rugger's friends "problem" if indeed it is a problem to him - but what WOULD happen if Rugger "pushes" him the way you suggest - and IF his friend is say
1.Gay
2. Physically well under endowed
3. Secretly married/engaged for whatever reason
4. Made a pact of celibacy before marriage (They've actually got a club somewhere of members vowing this!!) or
5. Yowich....Impotent!!
: ...
This is exactly what St. Marzoopial is talkin' about and I whole heartedly agree. While it is true that there can be some heavy, unknown psychological shit that you may not know about, the much grander error these days is how we all hang back and let our friends and loved ones "make their own mistakes." It's one thing if that 'mistake' is a minimal, temporary thing (like booking United instead of Cathay or Singapore Airlines  ) but far worse than that is our predilection to roll over and play dead when when we KNOW our friends are screwing up for years at a time.
You know this, we've all done it. A buddy announces his engagement to the biggest bitch on the planet and you recoil in terror and peep, "Well . . . I guess if you love her then we'll love her too . . . ?"  , or your grandpa keeps buying your grandma the really bad weed, y'know, the stuff with pesticides on it, and you won't intervene. 
So what if your pal has a small wiener. That's no excuse to let him closet himself for years on end. Likewise with the secret marriage/engagement. Who the fuck does that secret?!  If he's doing that then he definitely needs a little shake up. And the pact of celibacy? Fine, but if it's making him act all weird then his pals have to take him out and get his oil changed (that's a colloquial way of saying fucked in the U.S.). And need I even address the 'impotent' situation? Impotent??!! Ain't nobody gonna stay impotent with the right HK Hotel Girl! 
Friends don't let friends drive drunk (except on a closed course and only for laughs). Friends don't let friends make big, dumbass mistakes year after year after year.
Take him out, get him well fucked and if he's all offended then apologize and promise never to do it again, but don't just sit there letting him suffer in some sort of mediocre rut in life. |
) but far worse than that is our predilection to roll over and play dead when when we KNOW our friends are screwing up for years at a time.
, or your grandpa keeps buying your grandma the really bad weed, y'know, the stuff with pesticides on it, and you won't intervene. 
If he's doing that then he definitely needs a little shake up. And the pact of celibacy? Fine, but if it's making him act all weird then his pals have to take him out and get his oil changed (that's a colloquial way of saying fucked in the U.S.). And need I even address the 'impotent' situation? Impotent??!! Ain't nobody gonna stay impotent with the right HK Hotel Girl! 