Having and attaining a mistress is very easy, even easier when you are in HK/China but maintaining a normal life while having a mistress is really tough. I've had a few in my many young years of marriage and each one is a lesson learned. It's really to fall into the trap, especially if your mistress doesn't have stretch marks from a few kids and is years younger than your SO. You live in paranoia, you don't keep healthy hours and you spend time lying to your SO.
I've talked in my sleep saying "I miss you so much baby", this is what I said to keep this specific mistress attached to me, also using these "lovey dovey tactics" to maintain anything sexual I wanted in bed with her. I said it so much that it came like second nature, even during sleep. I simply told my wife that I dreamed that she was on vacation and I picked her up from the airport. Luckily I call EVERYONE baby.
Keeping a second or third prepaid cell phone was also a headache, last thing you need is for your real cell phone to ring and a woman telling you how much she misses you and loves you.
Finding time to spend with the family, then making up shit to find time for the mistress is even tougher. Coming back 2 days with a "porn star tan" wearing speedos in the Bahamas can be avoided by bathing in sunblock before taking the mistress in the salty water for a quick boink underwater is something that had to be learned.
I can tell you a thousand of these lessons learned via experience. Having a mistress is hella fun, hella dangerous and hell bad for your health.
I would consider myself pretty seasoned at finding mistresses and keeping these relationships going for many months at a time, I tend to get tired of them after the first few months. When you first play (when I was younger) it was to find something that was missing from my marriage, having a child will throw your life in a tailspin and responsibilities overwhelm your whole life, hence having a mistress relieves that stress but you also fall into the emotional trap that is almost inevitable even for a cold hearted SOB like myself. After much pain, after much suffering and lots of lessons learned, I am much better at this now, it is experience that must be tried by one's own participation rather than listening to someone who has done it.
Final words, wise words if you want to listen. (most of the time) you guys chose your wives (I know I did) you buy the engagement ring, you set up the perfect time to propose, you have the ultimate wedding. Why? Deny it all you want, you fucking love your wife (most of the time), why else would you marry her? You may not appreciate her enough but overall you (at least for me) know that you are lucky as hell to have your wife. Men are pigs, we think with our dicks and need extracurricular activities outside of marriage.
When you step into a first time mistress, you are hiding it from your wife, lying to the wife and it is something that you share with your mistress. This was me before. Now when I have a mistress and my past 2 mistresses, I am hiding my love for my wife from the mistress, I am lying to my mistress to get what I want and the love I share with my wife is hidden from my mistress. You guys see the difference? I see and hear lots of stories about HK men trading up their wives for a younger model in China, I find this shit utterly ridiculous because most of the time (IMHO and what I have experienced), it almost never works out with the younger China lady and the man will finally realize that his wife was the one best for him. So to all the youngins out there who are thinking about getting a mistress, leave your emotions behind with your family and bring your dick at full staff to the mistress. Lie to the mistress, hide your family from your mistress because in the end you will understand that a mistress is nothing but a hole to quench your desires where you family will always be number one. Take this advice from a dude who has been through it all, to hell n back. | |
