I think due to porn, media and braggarts, we tend to think men are supposed to last longer than most do.
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Also, let's be honest, on occasion we click on reviews that are barely about the girl at all but amazing highly exaggerated tales about the reviewer's prowess.
"The sweat glistened of Fifi's face when she unzipped my pants and saw my MONSTER COCK....
Our forty-five minute intense fuck-fest was so hot; that Fifi got laryngitis from her screams of pleasure.
Forty five minutes later (yes, disappointingly I only lasted half my usual time) Due to me being an absolute FUCK MACHINE,
Fifi squirted so hard that it shorted the Mars rover.
Before fainting from the sheer ecstasy brought on by my
MONSTER COCK, Fifi praised my sexual prowess. As she proudly declared to the world that she had received the pounding of a lifetime from PUSSYSM4SHER69,
Danielle Steele responded with rapturous applause, whilst penning down Fifi's words verbatim for her latest novel.
As I was about to shower her with my impressive wad of 15 fifty-dollar bills, she promptly refused, cracked her mouth against the dresser and gave me all of her gold teeth.
It was the least she could do.
"Wait", Fifi cried. "I want you to know my REAL name."
"What is it?" I said as I put on my David Caruso glasses.
"Mimi."
WIR: Dunno."
Realistically, it's a sex worker; she's probably over the moon that you don't last too long; and honestly, lasting longer is infinitely better than delayed ejaculation.
Being with a sex worker, it isn't really a situation where you are reciprocating pleasure to each other. As much as many of us fantasize otherwise: Our penis is just one piston
of the steam engine that powers the revolving door that is the sex industry. Without that "will she like it?" pressure, you naturally won't last longer.
Post divorce, I experienced delayed ejaculation and it *wasn't* pleasant; yes it was psychological. So many sex-related issues in men are.
I've had a few meaningful relationships post-divorce, but I'm kind of in a place right now where I don't really want a steady girlfriend. However, those relationships did
really help with my self esteem. Sex with a romantic partner/spouse; or even with a random hook-up, involves reciprocal pleasure. I tend to last longer in those situations.
Your problems with ejaculation are almost certainly psychological. I would implore you to not use Viagra. Don't masturbate so much, as well. We are hard-wired for sex.
Our sexual appetite is one of the strongest driving forces we experience.
You're an older guy. I'm a child of the 80's and I was well into my horny teens before the internet became a viable outlet for masturbation. Think back on how amazingly
horny you'd get from just looking at a lingerie catalogue; hell a fully clothed pretty girl.
Think of how accessible porn is; porn that caters to any fetish or kink. That's great! But at the same time, regulate it. I know that "nofap" is a thing, but I don't think anyone
needs to go that far, not to mention "nofap" is a bit cultish and despite their claim to the contrary, anti-science.
However, think of it this way: If you're eating potato chips all day, it's going to spoil your meal, no matter how delicious or well-cooked it may be. It's affected your appetite.
I realized that each and every day, I'd scroll through places like Reddit where I was subscribed to lots of pornographic subreddits. It was just a ritual; there wasn't even
anything terribly sexy about it. I was like a pregnant mother always buying baby clothes because I'd imagine how useful they'd be later.
I was kind of desensitized to looking at sexual imagery. So, what I did was, I just stopped seeking it out. I didn't delete any porn, or dress up as Gandhi and go on a juice
fast; I just gave it a rest.
Within just a few days, I saw a video with a group of Japanese ladies in bikinis. I started to breathe a bit harder, I almost trembled it turned me on so much; it's a great
feeling. I still happily watch plenty of porn, but since then my relationship with it inherently changed. Give your senses time.
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