As someone said, "it is a line that once crossed cannot be undone".  You WILL feel guilty.  

It doesn't matter how hot or experimental your SO is - it is the need for variety, another girl, that is pulling you.  

This is a very addictive hobby - one that can have disastrous consequences -  so I suppose I would tell any newbie NOT to cross that line.

It is up to you.
Consider also the possible consequences:
1. Perhaps you catch a great WG (perfect fucking princess).
After she fucked your brain out, then the sex –joys and pleasure with your GF can fall or will be less in the future.
2. If you go first for a 3 – some (you, she and a WG), expect the next day she will come with a bodybuilder stud in tow and ask you for a 3 – some.
You also like to see your GF drilled by other men?
3. May be you go with her to a private couple - exchange sex party, but this is normally the traditional way to enrich a boring relationship.

So what can be a good advice?
May be do not “hang it up” as a great thing, like I do.
Use a WG same as you buy a cheeseburger.
Fuck her, pay her and forget her (ideal punter way).
Please don´t mix love and sex together.
So take it, like a cheeseburger.
That is a low interest thing, nothing you have talk about to your beloved girlfriend.

“My biggest fear would be of guilt”

And finally: About what you are fear to be guilty?
Eating a cheeseburger?

Other bros have been warned you already about the risks of addiction.

It is up to you!

[ Last edited by  inbkk at 18-6-2011 23:33 ]

Look: hkpb is one of billions of men who wants to propagate his seed.  One hundred years ago, he would not think twice about it.  50,000 years ago he would not think even *once* about it.  Some say our capacity for sexual fideltiy and "moral pause" is progress.  But really, it's just ugly women and weaker males trying to achieve reproductive parity by convincing us alphas to stop fucking all the hot women.

So, yeah all this wishy-washing hand-wringing is bullshit.  Be a man.  Get yours.  HK/Macau is a great place (really, the best place) to do that.

It's a foregone conclusion that hkpb will start punting regularly.  I mean the guy came to a PUNTING forum to ask if it's okay to punt.  Guys (usually raised in US) who are capable of monogamy do not do that.  For these sad sacks, desire eats away at them forever until they die filled with regret.


Dart is right.  The question is NOT whether hkpb should fuck other women.  The answer to that is yes.  The question is how best to preserve what he's got with his girlfriend.  Dart is saying if hkpb has the luxury of having an open relationship, then that is the way to go.  OTHERWISE, I would say keep fucking the gf until 1. she finds out about your punting or 2. you get tired of her.  I assure you, both 1 and 2 are certainties.

The fact that you are on here asking this,  is already an indication that in the back of your mind
you are going to monger.   Deal with the desire now.  Suppressing it will only complicate things
down the road as your feelings for her become more and more contaminated by your repressed desires.
Even if she is willing to accept your activity "du jour" this time,  there will come a time when she
draws a line as to how "accommodating" she will be. Sooner or later you will be in for some disappointment.

That said, what remains is for you to decide what you truly want from the relationship.  Are you looking for
a long term commitment with her?  Do you love her? How do you see yourself 10 or 20 years from now?
Hard questions,  not easily answered.  But if you care about her and really don't want to risk losing her, then
you have to at least attempt to weigh the consequences of your future actions.

Be sure of one thing and one thing only.....if you try deceit, you will fail, ultimately, everyone gets caught.

Thank you bro so much for the opinions, thats why i posted my dilemma here because I knew I would get honest answers and no bullshit. I have been thinking about this in the last few days, as much as I regret losing here, I think I would regret not punting in HK. There are so many good quality girls here, why settle for my girlfriend (even though shes great), when there are many others to enjoy.

I think in the near future, I am going to join the dark side, the sight of all these girls in hotpants is just too much to ignore. I came all the way from England and I havent shagged a single local girl.

Thank u brothers once again.

Several brothers have suggested active participation of your GF by introducing a threesome with a WG.  I have some experience with how this kind of scenario can play out, but of course every woman is different and YMMV.

After moving from US to Asia and experiencing (and loving) the dark side in Bangkok, I had an ex-girlfriend (I'll call her "L") that wanted to get back together come visit me. We went on a short holiday to BKK and I don't remember exactly how it came up but she said she'd be curious to try a threesome.  So I took L to Utopia (high-end soapie place) and asked the manager if we can go into the room together with the girl I pick.  At first he said no, but once I offered to pay extra it became alright.  L and I checked out the line up and agreed on a model and went up to the room.  To make L more comfortable I even told the WG that we could do everything else but I wouldn't be having intercourse with her.  So we had a fun and exciting session.  It was an amazing experience having both L and another hot sexy girl in the tub all together.  I even made them touch each other a little but mostly the attention was on me.  I finally finished from a BBBJ by the WG.  L was excited by the whole thing and we had really good sex back at the hotel that night.  All in all, this was a highlight memory from my life.

Well, L and I did not get back together but stayed in touch once in a while.  And after a while passed she told me that she had started to feel kind of grossed out about what we had done.  A few years later we met up for coffee when I was back in the states and she said she hopes I'm not still going to those gross places in Bangkok.

Sooo, I guess what I'm trying to say is that even if your GF seems open to trying something like a 3-some, there is a chance that it could backfire on you down the line if she starts feeling bad/gross about it.  If you do explore this path, perhaps its a good idea not to bring in a WG, but instead go through something like craigslist and look for a civvie girl interested in a situation like this.  I think it'd be a bad idea to expose her to the darkside as it would, at minimum, open her eyes to the world of temptations available to you and I don't see how any girl would not become more suspicious of your "golf weekends", macau trips, and late nights out.  

Finally, as one other poster mentioned, if you go down the dark path do not EVER tell your GF that you have been doing this kind of stuff.  Doesn't matter how guilty you feel, just suck it up.  You may think you "need" to be come clean and admit what you've been doing but that's BS and just plain selfish (hoping admission will make u feel less guilty).  In actuality, all you will do by admitting your activities is destroy the trust between the two of you--and you will still feel guilty.  But in addition, you will now have a much larger problem of trying to salvage the remains of the relationship where you just dropped a bomb.

U end up lose more than u can bargain,the thing is u don't want to marry a slut and u always have the fear to get std's later in life when have grown kids you don't wish they treat woman like you did, when u single do it when u have a commitment be mature. My two cents

My 2 cents.

1. A man got to do ,what a man got to do, to become the man he wants to be.

2. Wussies tell all their secret to a woman - after that there will be no more secrets between both of you. If you have some secret, never to be known by you GF/ So/ Fiance or Wife...it gives you leverage in the r'ship and it keeps some sort of attraction between both of you. There will always be something she wants to know about you. Powerful stuff. Basic law of attraction. Simple example - why we have stag do or hen night...but stories of those nights are never to be spoken off. Leverage.

3. For all that is worth with all the built up 'guilt' you will compensate and be the best BF/Husband . Punt like a Rockstar, Adore her like a Romeo!

Jump.

Re point #2, maybe relationships involve you telling enough to gain their trust, but not enough (everything) for there to be no tension and no mystery about you left.  Sexual relationships need tension.

A stupid decision to start trying a cigarette and now smoking is a habit.

A costly decision to start trying punting and now punting is a habit... Note: this is just a "costly" decision...as to whether it is "stupid"...well...

Let's just say the only way not to get addicted to something is to not try it in the first place.

My advice is simple...If you have come this far (and managed to create an id and and thread/post in this forum, then might as well go for it and bang few. You wouldnt be looking for an advice if you were a saint......
And yes, dont forget to come back and post a report here.