I am married and have a little boy.  I also enjoy WG at least 1-2 per week and sometimes a little extra from Escape etc....

I met a local girl from work and she started getting serious very soon - I dated her for 5 months.  I would bang her 2-3 times per week and 3-4 shots per session without a condom (lucky I have zero sperm count due to TRT).  The cost for hotel victoria and/or Eden, taxis, dinner, movies etc costed me $20K/month easy.  

Last week I get a lawyer calling me up asking to meet me for a divorce consultation with my wife (requested by my mistress).  My mistress gave me an ultimatum to marry her or she'll dump me....  So I took it upon myself to dump her first.

Now I feel so guilty for giving the girl false hopes, lies, fake promises of a family with her, marriage after divorce with my wife etc.... that I cannot get over it.  I think I've become very fond of her (possibly love) and I feel shit for being a prick to take advantage of her.

Does banging a lot of hookers in quick succession solve this guilt for anyone?   

I don't want to hurt my wife nor do I want to divorce. I just wanted a little extra on the side but I guess the time had to come sooner or later.... just too soon for my liking. Wondering if I should string the girl a little longer by delaying the lawyer's appointment with some farfetched excuse?

Any cure for guilt?

i don't know where to begin.  

from work?= you crazy?
20k? holy crap

no, it won't solve your guilt.  Hookers are to be played with & you pay to leave them.  You obviously have something more invested & now it is in a web of mess.  This can really potential blow up!  familty, career, mistress, social friends, etc etc. Sorry if this sounds like a lecture

to make it short, WG will not cure your guilt.

1. Are you seriously asking this question?

2. [headinhands]

Okay, I get the picture.  Yes I'm serious about the questions as I'm mentally challenged at times.  

I'm seeking advice because I'm not able to control my dick with high testosterone from the TRT and after lying profusely for 5 months to get hundreds of "free" GF shots inside her, it's hard to break the daily routine of believing she is my "real" girlfriend.

20K a month? Are you nuts?  No wonder she wants to marry you. She wants the whole paycheck. You can buy a whole lot of guilt free sex for half of that.

Ur a dumb SOB if you feel guilty.  That's what mistresses are for.  I too make thousands of promises.  Wife is no good, etc... I know the deal.  Fuck it, if she's gone U've gained ur losses.  Time to look for the next Ho to trick out.

yep... what do they say...guilt is a useless emotion.

mistress may string you along if your money runs out in the future, ditch her

Gosh.,...why do people have to ditch their family over a whore.??


Man, ditch both your wife and the whore. Keep the kid!!!

No offence with the ho, since she is ripping you 20K a month.


We are not professional shrink nor an expert in marriage and divorce, so the choice is all yours.






I was looking back at your past posts from 2011, most were great HG reports but it seems that you have the tendency to screw yourself on relationship with co-workers.
Maybe you can get off from all this, or a hobby of yours spending $$ on chicks. You seems like a Masochist to me....

[ Last edited by  hunter at 27-11-2012 11:45 ]

The answer:
Stay with wife and kid

The reason:
1. the mistress is gonna put you on lockdown once you marry her... because she knows how you were and you'll be forever cursed....
2. once you're married to her you might lose interest in her
3. divorcing wife + kid doesn't exactly erase them out of your life they will still be there and you'll still need to support them.
4. divorce gonna REALLY cost you way more than 20k a month
5. 5 months isn't really that long... it's really your dick is still into the girl.... and might still be a physical attraction that'll be gone in years.... and i don't know if she's got the best of best personalities
6. The fact you can screw around and still be with your wife and kid means your wife lets you off easy... it's not gonna be the same when you re-marry.... so forget about it.

hope this helps.

that post is gold....

you've managed to fk off the wife and mistress in 5 months.

mate, you seem to have more money than brains and now paying for it.

i suggest drop them both and start again.

You are a very confused man. 6 months ago you said you got pleasure out of getting women's hopes up and then dumping them (and got negged by the brotherhood), and now you say you have had long-term mistress and feel guilt knowing you have strung her along.

you have a fantastic memory !!!  
now I remember who this virgin boy is !

Not really. It's called falling in love with the person you planned to use.  I never intended to love this girl and it just happened.

Anyway, update is that she started trolling around and finding my friends. She tried to call them up and spy on me etc.  I told her that this is unacceptable and that it's over.  Then she sent me ridiculous amounts of half broken english whatsapp messages about how much I'm going to regret etc.  Cut to the chase.... I ended it and decided that I'm going to stay with my lovely wife and have some extra WG sex on the side.  That's as far as I'll go.... I"m tired of pretending to be single etc.

Based on your response here it seems like you never actually loved this girl. It sounds like you were infatuated, but not in love.

love is a made up word to keep people from killing themselves

next she's gonna try to call your wife...

if you get out of this mess...stick with WG  less problems.

@chelu: TRT = Testosterone Replacement Therapy.  Basically I"m a bodybuilder and I take steroids.

For everyone else:

I have dumped her without regret or guilt now.  Thanks everyone.  She basically went so pyscho and kept blaming, harassing me, screaming at me non-stop for hours begging me to dump her.  I really hope she isn't suicidal after the return verbal abuse I gave her.  


No more mistresses or girlfriends for me.  I'm now happy to not need to lie to my wife of my whereabouts every night.  My stress levels have dramatically dropped and I feel happy as larry.

I've attached 1 of the Whatsapp messages she sent me.  It took 15 hours to convince her to let me fuck her 1 more time.  She was sick last week, begged her to let me take care of her while she was sick.  Went to her house in DB and she let me stick it in 3 times.  Wanted another go and then started calling me papa.  When I didn't call her after work as my wife's restaurant got robbed and I spent time going through video footage, she snapped and that's when I cut it.  

I told her "you have mental issues".

She said... "I don't!  I will sue you if you say that 1 more time!  You need a doctor's certificate to prove it"

Idiot.  Well... I guess I'm an idiot too.

Not the same thing at all. Further, get some real steroids. Testosterone is the worst thing you could be using. Having super-physiological levels of T in your blood stream gives you the all the side effects people used to talk about. You're kind of 1940's here, 50 years behind the times.