if you're exploring Asia for the first time and are planning on spending awhile, u will likely have more luck in yr stated goals in the major cities of Thailand than here in Hong Kong.
i know, Thailand, cliche, right? but, Hong Kong is a crowded busy city where space is extremely expensive and people are pressed for time. neither of which u need on a vacation. also, we're about to head into the Chinese New Year period where transport/lodging etc are problematic for weeks on end. it's also a bit chilly now, although coming from the States, u won't notice it as much.
the thing about cities like Bangkok and Pattaya is that they have cheap real estate, reasonable hotels, great food, and the nightlife is likely more suited to yr stated purposes. as a couple, u can sit it go-go bars and examine DOZENS of girls for the price of a drink (not a US-strip-club-price, but a few dollars). as a couple, girls won't home in on u quite as quickly as they would men. it's a good idea to check the talent and take your time--after all, YOU are calling the shots here. i suggest u view the first strip club or two as recon-operations only--even if u see The Girl, u can always come back later. also, the atmosphere can be intoxicating so i'd recommend one or both of u stay relatively sober--if you do drink, alternate with soft drinks or sip slowly the first time. once u learn the ropes (won't take long), things become easier. yes: u are offering compensation for services rendered, but you pay for a spa or a good massage, right? same thing, just a bit more personal.
IMO, Bangkok and Pattaya are much more open in terms of these liaisons. if u really want a girl that is into other girls, u can wave over the mamasan (if she's not already hovering), and SPECIFY what you want. there is no need to be shy--if you feel intimidated, don't worry, just go ahead and tell her what yr looking for. many working-girls will do 3-somes and do what u request, but it's an act for them, they don't mind, but they're not really into other girls (there are shows in Pattaya that are full-on lesbian shows, and if any of the performers float yr boat, buy them a drink and have a chat). yes, u can admire girls at work without any commitment other than a drink of two (DON'T buy drinks for ladies unless they're serious prospects and you want to speak with them).
they have HEARD IT ALL BEFORE, trust me. some have DONE it all before. but in any case, spell out in clear terms what you expect. if she seems hesitant, ask her if she's OK with ALL of it. if not, there are other girls, and other bars. if she seems nice but doesn't seem comfortable 69'ing u, u can always ask if she has a friend in the bar who's more girl-minded. it's good to arrange a signal with yr BF so that if he *really* isn't interested in a gal for any reason, he can let you know in a discreet way.
Thailand also significantly cheaper. u might find yr dream date at Neptune's, i don't know cuz i've never been there--most of the previous advice steers u towards the Wanchai bars, which makes sense given the nature of yr mission. the spectrum of HK P4P i frequent is geared towards the single male, and it suits me fine. but even at 30 baht/US$, Thailand is cheaper. yes, there are traveler-scams and you should read up on those, and check local prices for the action you're seeking, but for P4P of the type you seek, i reckon you'll have more fun in Bangkok or PTY. there is even a club in BKK where there's a two-girl minimum, 90-minute session, nonstop...that wd be a 3-on-1 for yr BF but i guarantee you'll never forget it. ever had TWO girls ministrate to yr needs simultaneous?
anyway, good luck. much depends on yr schedule/budget etc, but u seem to have no problem being frank about your desires on this board, and that's GOOD. as SEAJ pointed out, Asia is not as hung-up as the USA on fun-oriented services, as u will find out! if u can afford it, try Wanchai AND visit Thailand. trip reports always welcome here!
JtB
PS: chicks can definitely be punters, i've known a few. with a BF is fine--u just need to specify that u intend to be PART OF THE ACTION. as far as hygiene, you'll find that Asian women are generally quite clean: showers beforehand are standard for all parties, hotels often provide multiple toothbrushes, condoms are also provided but you may want to bring your favorite and they are typically changed between every use, so buy 'em by the dozen. always better to have too many than to run out. dental dams are not common, not that i've ever used one. someone posted this excellent URL earlier so i refer u to it:
http://www.sfcityclinic.org/stdbasics/stdchart.asp
the acronym "DATY" stands for "dining at the 'y'", a rather silly term for using one's tongue to perk a lady's interest in that special spot. many of us do it, and i personally have never suffered any ill effects from this activity, quite the reverse. that said, it is good to take some time and get to know your date for the evening. smiling and laughing, sharing jokes and having fun is the BEST way to do this. once u establish a bit of rapport, u can likely shower with the gal and soap the fun bits yourself. many Asian showers have handheld showerheads and you can have fun with those too! hopefully your BF won't mind if u two ladies spend 20-30 minutes in the shower.
what else...i know long fingernails are fashionable, but for certain purposes, having them cut short is best-practice. just be gentle, u know what u like, but not all women are exactly the same. start with the basics and follow her lead. if she does something u don't care for, let her know...subtly if possible.
i dunno, maybe all of this is second nature to u, but Asian sexual culture is about fun and sensuality, a light touch and humor is the way to go. she should know what's expected of her, and compensation, before u agree to take her to yr hotel. tips are appreciated, but dependent on service. never forget: YOU call the shots, and a previous poster mentioned that the female of the duo shd do the talking/negotiating, absolutely right. women who are into women aren't going to want to negotiate with yr BF. many will think that a couple on the prowl are seeking to fulfill the guy's fantasy, as yr doubtless aware.
and, go ahead and post any other queries. please don't worry about "nOOb questions": we were ALL newbies once, we have all had those first-time-jitters (sometimes more than once
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