Shite, bro, you can't find a couple hours once or twice a month??  

How about lunch?  A long-lunch every now and then is acceptable by most emplyers and she has no need to know...

Anyway... some tips to start building time for quantities of mongering:

Seperate work from personal life COMPLETELY.  I've been in HK 4 years and my wife has never even met a single co-worker.  I've told her from day I do not want to "bring work home" so that when I'm home, I'm all hers...  (hehe, worked great!).  This allows me to feed BOTH sides lies that they never check up on (family shit to do to buy time off work, and work-shit, travel, meetings to do buy time off home).  This is the first best tip.

If you travel for work--- than it's easy as hell to monger like a monster.  Pretend it is a 3 nite trip you're on instead of two (the extra nite your back in town so work is fine..., but you've book a hotel to bang your brains out).

Make a habit of NOT answering your phone often - but instead calling her back at YOUR CONVENIENCE!  You're busy.., you're in a meeting, you're at dinner, on a plane, in a noisy place..., whatever.  Start training her now that when you dont answer it DOESNT MEAN ANYTHING.  She'lll learn that your voice-mail is not a sign your being bad (though it often is... hehe).

If you NEVER have a work reason for a nite out (dinner with clients?) (dinner with the boss?) then you need to make up some.  A hobby perhaps...

Usually most (Asian) ladies spend a significant time at the beauty salon.  This, is a great opportunity to monger and be back within two hours minimum they need to work on the facials, nails and the like.  If she does not use a salon then buy her a gift certificate (in her name - non transferable)  say on a special occasion or NOT to get her hooked.

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Stonecold, we don't know yr situation--u have a good time with yr galpal but still want some...VARIETY on the side.

to me this makes sense. and if yr safe about it, it will add spice to yr sex life with yr live-in.

i think this a perennial problem with many men. at least when u originally posted, u were doing well with her, and happy. what woman wdn't want a guy who kept her happy, and fulfilled? relationships are complex, but i feel that seeking the services of professional technicians is fine if u play safe and keep it discreet.

in Asia, it's about face, and Asian women IMHO are more sensible about this than Western women. if u go off and monger a bit on the side, and say u were playing tennis, what harm are u committing? it's not like she's coming home and finding u in bed porking her best friend. of course that happens--women love to steal other women's mates. don't kid yrself.

WGs aren't interested. they'd like it if u were a regular, and tipped well. otherwise, they don't need u around. yr mate does.

when i lived with my Japanese SO here in HK, i didn't monger within HK. if i took a trip to say, Thailand, i'd bang a bunch of gals--saving up memories for when i returned to her. having variety, i didn't get bored (she was a lot of fun, that helped).

she would ask me sometimes about "nightlife activities" or some such. i'd always say "don't worry," and leave it at that. she didn't sign a lease on ME when we moved in together. i think throwing a variety of WGs into the mix made that relationship better. i had memories to fall back upon, and lived vicariously through my own fucking, if that makes sense.

women who need to account for every hour of every day of YOUR life may be trouble. it's your party, of course, but i would suggest teaching her words like "no" and phrases like "i'm busy," "don't worry, things are fine, see you in an hour" and such. it's your life...meaning, it's YOUR life.

JtB

Seems we are all saying the same thing, Bro.

You've given every second of your life to her - too the point where she expects complete knoweldge of every tiny thing you do every minute of the day!  OMG.  I would kill myself.  

Yeah, I know:  "LOVE"  right?  I get it... it's nice and beautiful and I believe in it too (awww, that's so sweet), but if you DON"T carve out some free time for yourself (and free time for her too - she needs it too!  Though hopefully she wont be dloing the same as you...) you'll find your relationship gets stagnant.  The phrase "absense makes the heart grow fonder" is very, very true.  Spouses need time apart to appreciate the time together.

Soooo....  start cutting the chains...  Perhaps find things SHE's really into (photography, sports, whatever) and suggest she sign up for a course or a club, or whatever....).  Get HER doing things away from you for a period of time....

Bro.., I am not sure how long you've been together, but clearly you are a typical "man" and want some little extra spice in life.  Make the adjustments to her bahaviour before it's too late.

If she's hot, you could always arrange with a bro here to keep her company and "re-educate" her on the beauty of extra-marital sex while you go have your fun!

You might want to ask yourself whether its your own guilt that keeps you from getting 1 or 4 hours to go punt.  When was the last time she accompanied you to get your passport renewed (or driving license or something legit like that) and you had trouble waiting in line for a legitimate thing for 4 hours?  Now, if you can do it with truthful business, why can't you do it with a lie?  It's your own guilt and conscience getting the better of you buddy!  Just lie to yourself first, then lie to her!

Edit: this wasn't a reply to wander's post but the thread?! rggh F8ck it!

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Speaking of renewing your driver's license - in the States there is a 6 hour Defensive Driving class that can help you refresh / reduce points for insurance and the like.  The best thing I found out is if you coordinate with your friendly instructor then they can forge your signature and Presto!  Don't know how it works in HK but you will have 6 hours of mongering time you can put to ggod use but can use this excuse once in a blue moon.

Without diving into the intricacies of the OP's gf personality,
I'd say Lunches and off site meetings are the way to go ;)

This kind of thing can certainly be challenging. My view would be to build up time away from her so she gets used to it. Just increase over time so as not to be suspicious.hobbies are a good one but start meeting up with some mates regularly, that becomes your camouflage as required. Also vary the time you get home from work, explain you had to work back or were sent on an errand. Over time you will be able to slip out monger to your dick's content.

Regardless of anything else you don't want to feel every second of your day is locked down do you?