I have a very good girlfriend, shes dynamic in bed, she rimmed me and is willing to fulfill all my fantasties however once in a while I am tempted to mong, I want to try out all these girls. I am very fortunate to have the financial means and language skills to try any of these girls on the database. I have never been with a WG. My biggest fear would be of guilt, I am very transparent in my feelings, I am afraid of losing my girlfriend once I tasted the dark side. Wise and experienced men of this forum, what shall I do.

You are right to fear the dark side.  Powerful it is.  Quick it is.

Your first WG is a line to cross, a line that has been there your whole life, you cross it and...poof.  The line is gone forever, WG will never be a big deal anymore and there is no going back to how it was before.  Which makes life complicated with a bunch of risks and costs.

But of course its AWESOME!

In terms of being transparent, that is going to change real fast if you go for it.  You will be shocked at what a great lier you become.

Of course the choice should be made by you.

[ Last edited by  bcs74 at 15-6-2011 21:52 ]

People on this forum maybe wise and experienced.. but only in punting.

For your dilemma, it's better to decide for yourself.

Don't be influenced by perverts like us.












Ditch your g/f before u start your first WG.
Less guilt more fun.

[ Last edited by  kaka at 16-6-2011 00:00 ]

see if she's down with crazy escapades?
perhaps you can suggest a threesome?
that way she can participate and at the same time guilt free?

happy days!

Haha kaka, I almost didn't catch that last part.

@hkplayboy

By asking horny punters if you should start punting, you could probably guess the answer.
I had a dilemma like you did when I first came to HK. I didn't have a gf, but at first I thought it was morally wrong and a lowly thing to do. But hell, I was in HK and had nothing better to do, so I started off with a HG which was completely amazing and blew my mind. Once I started that path, I didn't regret a thing except for not discovering 141 and starting sooner. My mentality about punting nowadays is that I just make a phone call, stop by a hotel, and spend my pocket change.

That, by the way, is coming from a horny punter who had 13 girls in 1 week.

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Bro, it's a very personal decision.  How important is honesty in your relationship?  Will jit eat you up inside?


The first time I cheated I couldn't take the guilt and I confessed.  It was a really tough time in the relationship and I knew I was taking a risk in destroying it but my conscious couldn't take it.  We moved on and years went by but then that whole thing about her libido being too dormant started bothering me again.  so I'm back to being a bad SO but I've come to realize I need to have sex, so I shall punt.

Are you willing to risk a great relationship?  Could your relationship overcome your mongering confession if u get caught?  

You yourself may not know the answer.  Don't take it lightly, your value system may be different then some of the guys here.  Your risk tolerance may be different as well.

You are on a site where a bunch of guys take cheating on their SO as an enthusiastic hobby so obviously they have no problem with the guilt.

Could you deal with it?  I'm a different person now, but 2-3 years ago, I couldn't take it.

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perhaps this will impact the response, whats your rough age?  how long with the SO?  

Only you know the answer really

Try saunas first, you can convince yourself that it's "just a massage" and see where it goes from there.

As mentioned previously, it's a line to cross.  And just like your virginity, you'll never be able to go back.  IMO, if you've got a girl that's already willing to do anything you want, why do you want to pay a WG to do the same?  Well, beyond the obvious of hooking up with as many women/types of women as possible.  Again, IMO, if you're going to cheat, though, cheat up.  So if you've got a 9/10, why risk losing that and have to pay for it?  Keep in mind:  It's addictive!  

What is her view on fidelity?  Has she ever talked about it?  

Sounds like she's pretty open to you and your fantasies.  Of course she wants to possess you and have 100% of your attention.  She's a woman, and wants to be so attractive you don't even notice any other women.  But right now you do have an opportunity to talk to her more openly, before you actually do have sex with another girl.  

If she's that good, you need to continue to explore your fantasies together, and build as many shared experience as you can.  
Can you talk to her, maybe start by telling her how important she is to you, and asking if she ever notices if your eye catches an attractive body?  

Alternatively, don't trust her to accept your feelings, go visit a hooker without telling her.  The risk is you might enjoy it so much that you won't care too much if you lose her.  
That seems to be your choice.  Do you prefer both-and or either-or?

Normally guys just punt because they want to try out different pussies, different races, and different body shapes, as well as different positions if their SO only does standard shit. If your SO already does the latter, that's by and large the biggest reason to punt erased. Of course she can't change her body shape (willingly) but she can act out fantasies like role plays and maybe even S&M to add variety. There's still so much to explore with a willing partner.
But... Maybe that willingness fades after afew years. How long have you been together? Maybe you yourself are getting bored of the same person and need a change. You could try a sauna as another bro suggested and let thing go with the flow.

Well she talked about threesomes too, she has a fantasy about people watching while we have sex aka dogging (uk terminology). I told her about my curtain bar experience and she admitted she felt jealous. Later I asked if she could dress up and pretend to be a WG and she said that idea turned her on so much... We have been together for a year, recently moved in together. I want to punt cos I want to experience different ladies, hell I came all the way from UK, plusI want to measure myself against a WG. Thank u bros for the viewpoints so far, I am still battling my urges.

Fxxk me, you got yourself the perfect gf! Turned on by threesomes and role plays! You could startup your own porn movie library!
I think your best angle would be to get a threesome by inviting a hot girl along. There was another thread here about done girl who wanted to initiate a threesome by going to Neptunes etc and check out possibilities. See if your girl would do that too?
Then you get your share of banging another girl, your gf enjoys the new experience and all is happy! It sure seems like she's open to discussing her fantasies... It's time you opened up to her too and came clean that you fantasize about screwing another girl too. Maybe you two dine on the WG together (DFK and DATY), then you shag WG, and save the final squirt for your gf. Maybe your gf would get off by seeing you sprayall over the WG's face!
Fxxk..... I could write an erotic novel about this..... Hahaha

EDIT: there might be the slightest possibility that the WG punt might not meet your expectations and be sub-par to yourtimes with gf. Just bear that in mind.

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Sounds like you have a lot left to explore with this GF.  I wouldn't rush to punt in that situation.  I would fully explore her and see what fantasies you can get before I would consider jeopardizing a pretty awesome relationship.

Like mafia said, a lot of SO's are not satisfying their guys due to being boring, having no or not enough libido, not willing to try anything.  They get frustrated and find this as the alternative.

I don't see you in that scenario and you've only been with this girl a year and she said she's open to fantasies that you haven't fully explored?

Move forward with the experimental stuff and orgies and fantasies and stuff.  You can have a rich sexual experience without jumping into the punting game just yet.

It's up to you at the end of the day but sounds like there is a lot of untapped potential in your relationship.

you have a sex willing GF and you spend time on this board asking us if you should go explore others then feel guilty about it?

maybe we should just ban you and do you a favor?

seriously, only you can answer the question. but one thing for sure, regardless of what she says that she's openminded etc, NEVER tell her about your punting if you do proceed.

do a user search for a Bro called fifa... he had a similar problem and was given a lot of good advice.

I think I have to search harder, I saw posts about FIFA football and the user telling the mods to fack off....

Dude you are all set!

Tell her that you want a third girl in the mix, not for you to fuck but a girl to go down on her while you bang her from behind.  Tell her you want to see her double orgasm with you and a girl working on her together.  Tell her whatever works!

The hard part?  The first two or three times with the extra girl you are going to have to resist like hell the urge to bang the new girl.  Don't do it! Make it all about servicing your (apparently) wonderful girlfriend. Make her love the threesome and the pussy and she will pay you back in spades!

Don't battle them bro.  If you 'battle' them they will get bigger.  

You have a choice to make, about what you can and cannot talk to your GF about.  Getting her input might help ...

"Honey, I want to talk, because I love our relationship and love the way we share and accept each others' fantasies.  It makes me want to give you as much as I can of what you need and want!
You said you were jealous about my curtain bar experience.  If I ever happen to have an experience like that, do you prefer to hear about it, so you can share it too, or do you prefer our relationship to be only about 'us'? "

Ultimately the best advice I've been given - by a wise old woman - was "I wish my first husband had just gone off and done what he needed to do, during the time I was too possessive and insecure, because then we could have stayed together and it would have been so much better for the children and for us too".  

If you can do what you need to do while also respecting her feelings and territory, you're in a much healthier position than if you choose unilaterally to do stuff without including her or consulting her.  

Question is: do you even WANT to know how she feels about your hooker fantasy??  
Is going off behind her back PART OF the fantasy, or can you risk her saying "it makes me uncomfortable" when you tell her your feelings?

Well you can always try to gauge her response first by trying an alternate route.  Mention to your GF that a friend of yours had a WG a while back and see how she responds.  That way you are one step removed and can quickly tell if this is a subject not to be brought out into the open.  This may help you in your dilemma to make up your mind.