Originally posted by Gayboy123 at 14-4-2018 20:33
I've gotten myself into a similar situation and im not sure where this is going to be honest.
Just my two cents: you realize you're juggling a hot little bottle of nitroglycerin, right?
Baccara used to be my fave go-go on Soi Cowboy but that was long ago. Last time I went there were a bunch of dyed-blonde, tattooed/pierced gals with bolt-on tits doing the two-step shuffle and chit-chatting with one another because that's what they do at work--they're just there to punch the timecard and wait for Toshi to Tokyo to make his annual visit, which will be spent at hotel buffets and shopping on his dime at Terminal 21. Possibly also Dieter from Düsseldorf, but likelier a Kim or Park from Seoul as Bacarra's been an Asian fave for years.
There were other girls working the crowd, but the onstage "talent" was disinterested. This was about the time I stopped visiting go-go bars. I first went in the late 80s, when dancers would do synchronized moves (dive-bombing floorward on separate poles, for example), go down on each other (this was a regular feature at Hollywood Royale, which was in the Rainbow 4 spot), wear giant day-glo butterfly wings, etc. The entire entertainment sphere was different then--no one was glued to their mobile phones, as they didn't exist in that world.
But one thing is as true today as it was back then: you can fall for a Thai WG. We're all human after all, and if they see that look in your eyes you are marked. A skilled go-go dancer will have 2-3 full-time sponsors: guys who transfer money to their bank accounts monthly. Meanwhile most dancers have a Thai husband or boyfriend. Don't take my word for it: ask Bangkok residents who know about the scene.
You need some direction, you need to know "where this is going." A lot of it depends on you: do you speak Thai? Are you living in Bangkok? Do you let her take the lead in shopping/eating excursions? Are you spending more money on this hobby than you thought you would? Are you falling in love with her? Does she invite her friends along to social occasions with you and expect you to pay the tab? There's a lot more but that's a start.
Thai WGs learn quickly that Westerners will put up with stuff a Thai man never would. They don't respect you for it (why do you think they keep their Thai BF?). They DO respect you more if you keep your expenses in line: Thai women love simple snacks, smiles, jokes, and appropriate payment for services rendered. If you think she's going to walk away from the bar for YOU, you may be in for a shock.
A few farang/Thai bargirl relationships have worked out. But they're the minority. Generally it's a trainwreck. Call me cynical, fine. But I'm not wrong. Ask around.
My suggestion is to do some deep thinking about this and figure out where it SHOULD be going. One good thing to do would be to take a break from the gal. A week, maybe more. If you're taking a trip, take the trip. If staying in town, tell her you need some time alone. There are all manner of white lies that are appropriate in Thailand, but here's a case when you want to see her reaction. If she gets angry over this, tell her "jai yen yen" and walk away. You can always come back.
JtB
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