there's no magic formula
we're all different. if yr circumcised, the nerve-endings in the head of yr penis rub against underwear all day for years, yes, it gets desensitized. uncircumcised men have a foreskin that preserves the sensitivity. which is "normal"? both and neither!
i'm uncircumcised and when i was younger, i had problems with premature ejaculation. when i got to know girls better, i could control things better and start to learn how to handle things properly. it takes time, and sometimes, it takes seeing a certain girl enough so that you know HER likes/dislikes. once you take the focus off yrself somewhat, start to relax...things improve. and, then you can learn yet MORE. over time.
i'm old enough now that i'm grateful for my nerve-endings...but i sometimes do get the feeling i'm about to blast it, and in that case, i SWITCH to a different activity. it's about shifting focus, trying new things.
everyone reacts to different stimuli. if u have a partner you can experiment with, try stuff like:
- sex in a place where u might get caught, like a dept store dressing room, or in a car in a crowded parking garage. some women get INCREDIBLY turned on by the thought they might get caught fucking.
- be honest with yourself. what turns you on? hoop earrings? white short-shorts? dirty talk? sex with two women?
bottom line: you're normal, u need to experiment and find what works for YOU. anxiety can play havoc with sexfun. learn to relax--breath-control, meditation, repeating the periodic table of elements...what works for me is playing with the girl at hand. verbal communication helps, but isn't essential.
when u get your internal processes sorted, then the positions become less important and more natural. still, a position may remind u of a previous encounter and...KAFUKNBOOM.
relax, bro. just relax.
Jack | |
