my two cents
i agree with Twice: the libido is a mental process or series of processes. when you take into account the indoctrination of various religions (with rules/regs on gender, sex etc), sexual mores and the sprawling/bubbling/fermenting subconscious, it's clear that the subject can be highly complex. you can't control your subconscious because you can't out-think your own brain! WHY do i think hoop-earrings (and a select group of other details) are sexy as hell? i don't know!
physically, men hit their sexual peak in their late teens, which is unfair. we're supposed to act like alpha-males and fight, oh sorry that's the National Geographic Channel...be sports stars/rock starts/celebs or some crap, then the females will want to mate with us. cross-fertilize with modern culture and things get seriously wacked.
but often women prefer men with some experience, because a teenager with raging hormones is problematic. also, women hit their sexual peak around age 30...although the variation in female sexual response never ceases to amaze me.
so, u get older. u appreciate the wisdom but miss the ability to get a stiffie when u glimpse a lingerie ad. there's tradeoffs. physical exercise is GOOD: i do 40-minute cardio workouts 3-4x weekly and it's very helpful. a generally positive attitude also helps. confidence and dialog helps get women interested...not that this means much in a cramped 30-minute wham-bam 141 punt.
lefty 8 asked about Vitamin V. i don't take it every time, but i do take it because i'm at the age where i like the confidence that i can experiment, have more fun and make sure SHE has more fun without worrying about my erection. but SEE A DOC before u take Viagra or any enzyme-inhibitor, there are side-effects for some. u NEED this info, this isn't some miracle cure. it will not give u a boner. it allows you to sustain an erection, but there are contraindications with other medication. educate yourself.
i'm curious about DHEA, but that may be further down the line. there's no miracle pill. sexual situations can produce anxiety, causing all sorts of secondary reactions. if u are physically fit, in a good state of mind, treat WGs well so they're comfortable, then you can have encounters that will reduce anxiety. remember, this isn't a competitive sport! men are more orgasm-oriented than women (hey, it's a survival-of-the-species thing when u get right down to it), women will have all sort of fun just messing around. join in the fun! don't give yourself a "score." with age comes wisdom and women often prefer older men for that reason. all over the world, u see couples in argument-mode: just standing facing each other but not-looking at each other, not-speaking. and you will notice, both are almost always YOUNG. they just haven't learned some of life's tough lessons yet. their expectations are high. try not to put that burden of "high-expectations" on yourself, relax, have fun. if it seems difficult, practice more. sex is a human expression, and it's as varied as we humans are.
stay healthy, stay positive, and have fun!
JtB | |
