Originally posted by pornaddy at 18-1-2010 19:41
Worried about being caught visiting WG by friend/family?
Anyone worried about being caught visiting WG by a friend or family? This constantly sits in the back of my mind. Would be very embarassing for myself, especially since no one in my family would think i would do that. Anyone ever caught? How it turn out?
Wouldn't mind other bros experiences on this topic....
Yeah, I got caught... The ex-BF of a WG I was seeing regularly hacked into her computer and found some emails I had written her. He was pissed off about being the ex-BF, so he decided to take it out on me. He tracked down my info and called my wife three weeks later and read her the contents of the emails. There were enough specifics in the emails to thoroughly implicate me. She threw me out of the house that night. We went through a messy divorce, which finalised exactly 22 months later.
My wife hired a forensic investigator to track down all of the money I had spent on WGs over the prior 15 years. In the end, I had to repay US$400K into our joint assets from my share of the ultimate asset distribution. She also hired two expensive lawyers, whose cost I had to partially bear. We spent US$300K in legal and accounting fees in the process of the divorce. Until I am retired, I will pay roughly a third of my income to her as alimony.
It also had broader consequences. My kids now know the whole story, which has really impaired my relationship with them. With a few exceptions, all of our former friends (who were all couples we saw socially) dropped me like the plague. The wives in the couples all sided with my wife, while the husbands just stayed neutral and avoided me for fear of offending their wives.
But life goes on... Since my life in the US was pretty shattered, I decided to make a new life here in Asia. I'm slowly recreating a life here, but it takes time to put down roots again. I have a wonderful 29-year-old GF (I'm almost twice her age). When I have the urge, I can now see WGs for 10-20 percent of what I used to spend in the US. And I hear the golf is good and inexpensive, although I'm too busy trying to get my work established to get back into the game regularly...
Have fun, CGP |
